**Author’s Disclaimer** I am neither a therapist nor a professional counselor.The following advice is given in a take it or leave it format.Ever wondered why they “give you signals” yet they can’t commit to you? It is a way to pull someone WILLINGLY back to you with minimal effort.If you can relate to these types of questions, sit back and relax. Turn on the ole’ brain and lets continue on shall we? ) but every time he heard this silly song he tried. This is NOT a scientific theory but one I have come up with myself. Before we get into this I want to make something perfectly clear, this is NOT A TOY, GAME or something that can be used to get your ex back to you to create a loving, positive relationship WITHOUT FIRST UNDERSTANDING basic human psychology.Years ago, there was a song on the radio my father loved called “The Rubber Band Man”. What does this have to do with the above questions you’re probably asking yourself? If you expect results quickly, you will be sadly disappointed.Relationships only work if BOTH parties involved want to reconcile.They tend to obsess over the person because of the feelings they received from them rather than the person and how they contributed to their life in a positive way. If you and an ex lover have both opened the door to communication, tread with your heart carefully. Let the love you shared for your ex either bring them back, or learn from it. Have faith that no matter what happens, it was for the best right now.
If you are healthy enough to understand that your ex is a separate person and does not belong to you or owe you anything physically or emotionally and that you both are NO LONGER a couple then you find out they are dating someone new, are engaged or even single and dating and can be perfectly 100% ok with any of the above mentioned, can you even think of communication.
John Gray: Often what people think they want in a partner isn’t what they truly need or want.
In truth, many people end up in lasting and happy relationships with someone who is well outside the scope of who they thought they were looking to find. That is why I like to say, ‘date around, don’t sleep around.’ In other words, open yourself up to the possibilities that are out there, without becoming too attached too quickly and thereby narrowing your view of the possible relationships that might be right for you.
” What do you do, you go with what YOU WANTED TO DO IN THE FIRST PLACE…you wanted someone to give you permission to call. It’s hard to say but in my experience, it’s better to leave it alone if you can help it. I try to give clear advice but this of course does NOT mean that it is clear TO YOU. Did you know the more you don’t see someone or something, the more you miss it?
Think of quick advice that you don’t ponder the ramifications of the action as someone telling you how to disarm a bomb WITHOUT THEM EVEN LOOKING AT THE BOMB ITSELF. If the object you miss was something that made you happy, you will miss it…no matter what it was. The thing that drives all of us crazy is the NOT KNOWING part.