Others may feel better having clear rules about sharing the logs of the activity. Some may prefer that the cybersex be around particular acts that are less appealing to them (fantasy play or sex acts that the partner may not enjoy as much).Others may feel more comfortable if their partner has cybersex using some other identity (gender role switching, or via a virtual avatar , in a game, or whatever)." But there's being OK with it, and there's not.So, for me, infidelity is taking an action or having a feeling that I think my partner would want to know but that I'm not telling him for some reason.I used to say that I 'don't do anything I wouldn't want him sitting next to me while I'm doing,' but I think that is pretty reductive and too prone to literal interpretation.From his Brisbane home, 42-year-old Kyle Dawson would pay a woman in the Philippines named Joann for live sex shows over webcam.
He might have it tucked away in the "it's not about my relationship" area of his psyche, but for her it is.We don't have many rules, so there isn't much to lie about.Really, the only rule we have is to share what we are feeling and planning. Right now there are more ways to have cybersex than ever thought possible, and it's making modern couples reconfigure their relationships' Terms of Service . Cybersex , it seems, might just be in the eye of the beholder.